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Sweet gals, has anyone ever said something that stings so deeply it appears as though you can physically feel it? I have. It is not fun.

A wise woman once told me that callous words are a reflection of one's own heart. And the hardest part about acknowledging this truth, was that I had not only been the victim on the receiving end, but also the offender on the delivering end. The Mean Girl act will wear you down and tire you out. I recently was on the receiving end again and man did it burn. Due to the fact that one, it hit me in a weak spot and two, it was straight-up hurtful, I allowed the words to dig in deep.

Another wise friend reminded me that I was not alone and that we have a choice when this happens. Because the fact is, that it does happen. We all have said things we shouldn't. And all have had things said about us that shouldn't have been. She advised me to pray for God to show me the weak spots that I allowed it to dig into and use it to strengthen them. It was either that or allow it to strengthen the lies within. I often ask my children a question when counseling them through rough patches and I had to ask myself the same question, which is best for you?

So, I chose the path of glory. All too often, it is easier and feels more justifying and comfortable, to choose the opposite. I don't know about you but the lies and insecurities within me have been there for awhile and I am great at feeding them. Are you?

I continuously pray that opportunities arise for me to grow and guess what, this was one of them whether I wanted it to be one or not. I wanted to be hurt. I wanted to know why. But more than those things, I wanted to grow. So I prayed.

I knew right away that I was to reach out to Mean Girl "Regina" and I did. She opened up immediately and apologized. She revealed that she was living as a prisoner in her own home. She was feeling over-looked, under-valued and upset. Her devaluing me was a reflection of her own lack of value within. Have you been there? Are you there now?

Let's dig deep and let love win. Pray through it. Ask God to show you the weak spots within that allowed the cutting words to coincide with HIS truths. Pray for the lips the harsh words came from. Chances are, they are experiencing their own sort of pain. We are all in this together, let's love one another through it.

Proverbs 12:18 reads "Thoughtless words can wound like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." At times when I am tempted to spout off or unleash I try to remember this truth. And ask myself, which is best for you? Easy answer. I don't want to be Mean Girl Regina George, do you?

xoxo,

Mollie